How to STOP second-guessing yourself and START making decisions
Feb 16, 2016 @ 7:31 EDT
By Dr. Amanda Chan
“There is no such thing as a mistake. There is only what happens.”
The chatter in my head: Should I do this or should I do that? What should I do? I know! I’ll pick option #1…2 minutes later: maybe I chose wrong, I’ll pick option #2…or maybe option #1.
Have you ever had the experience of second guessing yourself about your decisions? How do you know which choice is the “right” choice in the moment?
Mental chatter takes up extra energy in your body. Energy that you could use to heal, create, etc… is instead being used on decision making.
But it doesn’t have to be that way!
Here are some tips for making decisions:
There are no such things as mistakes.
There are only opportunities to grow and learn new things. Look back at some of the hardest times in your life that you got through i.e. a breakup, financial ruin, health issues. On the other side, didn’t those same circumstances give you strength, new resources and abilities that you never thought you had? “There is no such thing as a mistake. There is only what happens.” – Hugh Prather
Get in tune with your body.
When you are weighing two different options, check in with your body. Take option 1 and observe your breath, movement, energy, emotions and thoughts. Write them down. Take option 2 and observe the same things. Compare. Which option “feels” better to you? Ideally, you’d like nice deep breaths, have energy move up your body and feel peace and ease within you.
Pros and cons list.
Make a list of the pros and cons for each choice. Along with that, write out any “must haves” and “can’t stands”.
Observe your fears.
Figure out what you are afraid of with each option. Fear of failure, not being enough, etc. If it’s fear that’s keeping you from progress, choose the option that allows you to overcome your fear and takes the most out of your comfort zone.
Flip a coin….No, I’m not kidding.
Flip a coin and pay attention to what you feel when it lands. If you are happy with the option, that’s the one for you. If you notice that you are disappointed, then you know you would have rather the other choice.
Put yourself in peak state.
When you make decisions from a state of fear, you will choose differently than when you are in a good state. Listen to your favourite music, get some exercise, meditate and then come back to your options.
About the Author
Dr. Amanda Chan is a non-traditional chiropractor located in Ottawa, ON. She focuses on Neuro-Optimization and looks at the physical, emotional and thought patterns affecting your body and your life. For more information, you can check out her weekly blog http://www.neuro-optimization.